Yesterday I turned 2 years married and decided to write a post about the things no one tells you about marriage. Now don't crucify me I love my husband and our marriage is fun, relaxed and harmonious, but there are some things they could have told me before I said I DO in Maistraatti.
When you announce that you are getting married everyone congratulates you, some genuinely and others out of inertia, but no one gives you worthwhile advice or tells you what married life is really like.
Now dear reader if you have not married I invite you to read 5 things no one tells you about marriage, this list is based on my experience, I am not an expert in the field, but I recommend you take notes.
- It won't be perfect.
There is no such thing as a perfect marriage. Every marriage has its ups and downs, but it is important to remember that it is all about patience, communication and understanding. Every conflict has a solution and before thinking about divorce it is best to exhaust all resources before making such an important decision. Remember love requires work.
- Fighting over petty things.
Olli and I have had several fights over petty things especially when we are hungry. Yes, just as you read it... when we are hungry we fight over insignificant things. We have fought because some of us (Olli) forgot to buy some ingredient for the food. Keep the fights from becoming routine and it is very important to laugh after the fight.
- There will be days when you will go to bed angry.
Every couple is different, ideally we should not go to bed angry but many times we need our space to calm down and reflect on what happened. In my case the most important rule in the house is NOT to go to bed angry.
- You don't have to do everything together.
everyone needs their space and it's totally normal. Don't let other people make you feel bad because you went on a trip with your girlfriends or did an activity without your partner.
- Talk about finances.
Super important to touch on the topic of finances before you get married, just to be clear that you're both on the same page when it comes to saving, borrowing and planning for the future.
I hope you liked this list and that it is helpful. Remember that understanding, patience, communication and respect are key to a happy and healthy marriage.
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I loved your publication. I'm not married yet, but I agree with every point you make.
Hi, I'm glad you liked the publication. I missed many more but I think these are the most important ones.
Daniela VARELA VELEZ says
I love your post, the truth is that one of my dreams is to get married and I hope that when I do I can apply these tips that now I know no one will tell me.
Lene shaw says
Thanks for taking the time to read my post. I hope they work for you in the future.
Monica B. says
Hi Lene, how nice. I am not married but I have lived with someone. It didn't go very well, but we tried. I find it beautiful that someone speaks with such sincerity on this subject. And it is also nice to learn how to give advice to someone who is about to do it. Maybe we do it because we don't want to be nosy, but a little advice is not superfluous. Thank you for your post. Very beautiful.
Lene shaw says
Hi Monica, Thank you for your comment and I'm sorry it didn't work out.
I think many people don't give advice so as not to upset the other person and sometimes one doesn't ask for advice out of pity.
Many people think that marriage is happiness all the time and the reality is different.
I didn't know about this Blog but I think it's great. The Finances was the point that I put more mind very good advice.